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GREENSBORO, N.C. -- With each step D.J. Reader got closer to a reality he avoided for so long.Nervously, he walked between the flower-decked gravestones, toward a place where his father once told him not to dwell.When its over I dont want yall just spending time over here, David Reader would say. Because my spirit is not there and theres nothing you can do to change the outcome.D.J. internalized that. Never one for closure, he didnt seek it when kidney failure finally claimed his father on June 30, 2014, at the age of 51. He never tortured himself with Why? He never visited the cemetery after the funeral. He never sought help to emerge from the quicksand of emotion that was thickening around him. He just allowed himself to sink.It nearly swallowed the future he has now, but help came from those around him. Forced to take it, D.J. slowly began to realize that he needed things he didnt think he did. Clemson mandated he attend counseling sessions, and ultimately he missed six games in 2015 to do it.In May, the Houston Texans drafted the defensive tackle in the fifth round, hoping hed one day outplay that draft slot. He is still playing football because of his fathers sacrifice -- two kidneys being necessary to play such a violent sport, and David wouldnt allow his son to donate one. But hes also still playing football because he finally got professional help for the psychological toll that came with losing the man who had been his teacher in so many ways.And so on a hot July afternoon, D.J. wanted to take one more step toward closure. He sat on a chair in his mothers living room, eating a plate of fruit over a coffee table after a workout. He recounted all the painful details of the morning he learned his father died, and then he asked her a question.Can we go over to the grave site?Protecting family until the endEarlier that day, Felicia Reader sat in her living room with her warm gray dreadlocks pulled away from her face and tied behind her head. One room in this house is her office -- it used to be the schoolroom where her husband taught D.J. once his rheumatoid arthritis grew too debilitating for him to teach in a school anymore.In homeschooling his son, the lifelong educator found a new student.The parents tag-teamed coaching D.J.: Felicias father played baseball in the Negro Leagues, and she attended college on a softball scholarship, so baseball was her department. Her husband coached him in basketball and football. When Davids arthritis prevented him from fulfilling coaching duties, Felicia gladly stepped in.Basketball practices at a recreational center two miles from home became the first time D.J. had to share his dad with others to whom he was also a coach. In D.J.s recollection, when he misbehaved, his dad would make him walk home from the center. Felicia noted that all the while David would drive his car slowly behind his son, watching over him during his punishment.As D.J. grew older, he often shared his father with others. Other kids around Greensboro leaned on David Reader. He loved teaching, and had students even after he stopped homeschooling D.J.He really cared about youth, said Pat Neal, D.J.s football coach at Grimsley High School. He cared about education. Kids couldnt really pass the SAT, so he came to me one day and said lets try the ACT. We had seven or eight that were getting scholarships but couldnt pass the test. He took them, tutored them. All passed the test.He took time with other kids, not just his own. D.J. had to share his father with everybody else. You dont find that with a lot of people. You find people who pick and choose.He became a father figure to some of D.J.s teammates at Clemson, young men who often appeared at the Readers home a three-hour drive away and helped themselves to their fridge.There were things that I was going through at Clemson that led to me leaving Clemson, said Shaq Anthony, D.J.s roommate at Clemson. I would talk to him all the time about school, football, social life, staying level-headed. ... He was almost like a second father to me.Medication helped his arthritis, but it also damaged Davids kidneys. As they deteriorated, D.J. discovered through a blood test that he was a match to donate his kidney. David wouldnt hear of it. He knew D.J. had a future as a professional athlete and didnt want to derail that. David refused Felicias offer, too, protecting his family until the end. He worried about endangering Felicia and potentially leaving D.J. without either of his parents.He was really adamant about what he wanted, Felicia recalled. He said he was here to protect D.J. and he was here to protect me at all costs. And he meant that.While D.J. got tested, David refused to let his wife even take that step. She tried to argue the point.Tried, but I knew it wasnt going to work, Felicia said. A very giving man, a very loving man, a very stubborn man. When it was something that would impact D.J. or Felicia, it was no moving. Nobody couldve moved him.A donor never materialized.A haunting final conversationThe day David Reader died felt like a terrible dream sequence to all of them.Late on the night of June 30, 2014, Felicia heard her husband struggling to breathe. She called 911. She administered CPR, trying desperately to revive him, even hesitating to leave his side when the paramedics arrived.In the emergency room, she sat alone. Having misunderstood her phone messages, the rest of her family rushed over to her home instead of the hospital. D.J. was at Clemson for summer school, just back there after a beach vacation with some teammates.Soon the doctor emerged. Before he said anything, she knew.For about two hours I was at the hospital by myself with David, Felicia said. I had the opportunity to cry, to pray and to make sure he was how I wanted him to be when they picked him up to take him to the funeral.Getting the news to D.J. took his whole Clemson village.Jeff Davis, another Greensboro native and Clemsons assistant athletic director of football player relations, went to D.J.s apartment to tell him. But first, he called Stephone Anthony, a Clemson linebacker who later became a first-round draft pick. Anthony woke up teammates Shaq Anthony and Carlos Watkins around four in the morning while D.J. groggily wondered what his roommates were up to.They were all there with D.J. when Davis shared the news. They watched him fall to the ground.I didnt want to hear it, D.J. said. I broke down. I just didnt want to hear it at all.After the funeral, he refused to go back to the cemetery again. He played an entire football season without addressing, to himself or anyone else, that the last conversation he ever had with his dad was suffocating him.That conversation happened right before D.J. went on that beach trip with his teammates. He brought his dog, Summer, and Shaq Anthonys dog, Ace, to his parents home, dropped them off and left without saying anything. When he returned, David told D.J. that disappointed him. The sting of that disappointment festered after David died.What he didnt realize then, or for months afterward, was his father knew his life was ending soon. He wanted to prepare D.J. for life without him.Clemson went 10-3 that season and played in the Russell Athletic Bowl in Orlando. That game was on Dec. 29. Away from his family for Christmas for the first time, the pain began to simmer. It erupted at the end of June 2015, on the anniversary of his fathers death. On July 1, 2015, D.J. turned 21.I was out of it, D.J. said. Wasnt a great person. ... Losing my dad, he was like my best friend, my rock. I never had to seek male attention before because I had a male figure in my life. Not having that was real hard for me because I didnt have anybody to talk to. At least I felt like I didnt. I did, but I pushed them away.His brother Wesley Lewis, 11 years older, tried to fill the fatherly void. Around that time, the two of them got matching tattoos that said my brothers keeper.Others offered support, but D.J. withdrew from his friends. Hed spend hours around them not saying anything. The big, gregarious young man he had been disappeared. Felicia told him her employer, American Express, offered free counseling, but he didnt want it. All the while, that last conversation with his dad -- the disappointment he heard in Davids voice -- clung to D.J. He let it jeopardize his future.My values were down, everything was down, D.J. said.His teammates and coaches saw it and, after a breaking point D.J. didnt want to discuss, mandated he seek counseling. By helpful accident, that counseling changed his life. By doing it, he realized how much he needed it.When the four weeks passed, he had more work to do so he stayed. It helped that Clemson didnt lose any of the six games he missed. He knew his team was OK in his absence. He returned to the team on Oct. 19, once his heart and mind had healed.Things changed. He earned his degree from Clemson by the end of that fall and eventually returned to the teams starting lineup. The spring became a time to prepare for the NFL draft and meet with prospective teams.He never thought it would be the Texans. That meeting lasted about an hour. He met defensive line coach Anthony Weaver, defensive coordinator Romeo Crennell and general manager Rick Smith. He left wondering why they brought him there.The Texans 2016 draft class was small, and D.J. was their last selection. He watched the draft at his brother Wesleys house with close family members. Relief settled in when the Texans called in the fifth round.Id give all this up to have my dad back, D.J. said. Nothing compares to having your father here. If I had the option of playing football or having him back, Id choose him every time. Hed want me to be doing what Im doing now.David Reader always knew his son would one day be a professional athlete.A son never forgetsAt Lakeview Memorial Park, D.J. and Felicia walked together, in the low-90 degree North Carolina heat, through a cemetery unfamiliar to D.J. but one Felicia knew well.They tore away weeds that had grown over some parts of the gravestone. He leaned over to grab them while holding a bouquet of artificial flowers in his left hand. They replaced the previous set of flowers with this one filled with orange, yellow, white and hot pink lilies. Purple cattails and green leaves peeked from between them.He crouched down to speak to his father. He kissed his fingers and touched them to a tattoo with the initials asnf, a son never forgets. He bowed his head. He wiped his eyes with his T-shirt. This was so much harder than he thought it was going to be.He stood up and, Felicia walked over to him.He was a loving husband and father, she said, after reading the gravestone. It has her name beneath her husbands. The birth year is the same as his, and the other side of the dash remains blank.Great father, she added.D.J. put his left arm around her and they stood there looking down together. Felicia sniffed and D.J. did, too. He turned for a bit to wipe his eyes again. 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Now Bonino could make official plans for his day with the Cup.Everything is playing out like I hoped it would, he said.Mike Bolt, one of the Hockey Hall of Fames keepers of the Cup, arrived with the hardware and handed it over to Bonino at 9 a.m. One of the first stops was TPC River Highlands in nearby Cromwell, site of the PGA Tours Travelers Championship.Somehow, I thought I would play nine holes with it in 30 minutes, Bonino said with a laugh. I took four shots and took pictures and then we took it to my dads work, and it was nice to share it with him and his co-workers.Then we took it to my house that I grew up in, my parents house in Unionville. Then we took it and ate some pasta out of it with my grandparents. That was the one memory Ill cherish the most; my nana and papa there kissing the Cup and eating pasta out of it was something Ill never forget.When Bonino arrived at his old school, his former coach, John Gardner, who is still the boys team coach, greeted his former player with the now-famous Bonino! Bonino! Bonino! Nick Bonino! winning-goal call from Game 1 against the Sharks made by CBCs Hockey Night Punjabi, which broadcast NHL games in the Indian language.I dont think Im safe from anyone. Anyone can do it, Bonino said with a smile. Its my ringtone. Its another thing Im humbled by and its pretty cool.The plan was to have the Stanley Cup display on the beautiful village green, where the school holds its graduation every year, but because of the heat -- temperatures soared into the 90s -- the school decided it would be best to keep fans inside and out of the sun. The line of 5,000 fans snaked its way around the gym, up a flight of stairs, over the balcony, down a long hallway and out the door of the student center.Other Avon alums have their names etched into the Stanley Cup, including Hall of Famer Brian Leetch, who won it with the New York Rangers in 1994, and current Los Angeles Kings goaltender Jonathan Quick, who won the Cup in 2012 and 14. But this is the first time an Avon alum has brought the Cup to campus.Its really great, Gardner said. Its great for Nick to do this, and Nicks a great guy.There was a box at the front of the line where fans could make a donation to the Connecticut Childrens Medical Center before having their picture taken wwith Bonino and the Cup.dddddddddddd The box was overflowing by the end of the two hours. It was estimated that $5,000 was raised at the event.At one point, Gardner had all 120 kids attending his hockey camp this week with Bonino and the Stanley Cup for a picture.Nickys a great example to use to young players, because when Nicky was a young player, he wasnt that good, Gardner said. He never made any of the select teams. He wasnt a sure-fire commitment. He didnt commit to BU until after his junior year at Avon, and he was a late developer. So I use him as an example as someone who really worked hard, and because he worked hard, thats where he is, Gardner added, motioning toward Bonino standing next to the Cup as fans filed through the line.Before playing at Avon, Bonino played two years at nearby Farmington High School. At the time, then-University of Maine mens assistant coach Grant Standbrook told Gardner about a kid from Farmington whom he should scout and possibly recruit to play at Avon Old Farms.I saw Nick Bonino skate when he was a junior at Farmington High, and he was awful, Gardner said. He had great hands. He had great vision. He was a great player, but he skated very stiff-legged, slow, and everybody knew what he had to work on.The reason Nick is what he is, is he can be coached. Hes a smart kid and he knew he had to work on his squats and he had to get strong legs and he had to skate. Now people say, Oh, Nicks a really good skater.Bonino was a member of the schools varsity program in 2005-06 and 2006-07 and was the captain his second season. He helped Avon win the New England Prep championship in 2007, before his collegiate career at Boston University, where he won a national championship in 2009.As Boninos time with the Cup at Avon was ending on Thursday, a few hundred people remained in line, so he picked up the Cup so those fans could get a closer look before he exited the building.After leaving Avon, Bonino was taking it to Connecticut Childrens Medical Center.Having a child, and doing visits to childrens hospitals with the Penguins, and with the Canucks and with the Ducks, its eye-opening and definitely changes the way you look at life, Bonino said. Those kids in there havent had the best fortune, but you wouldnt know it by their demeanors, by the way they act. ... I knew this platform was a way to maybe raise some money.Bonino also teamed with Uber, which drove him around in the morning and donated $4,000 to the childrens hospital.After the public appearances, Bonino held a private party for family and close friends.Maybe Ill have a couple of drinks out of it, he said with a smile.Nothing could match the birth of his daughter, Maisie, earlier this year, but Bonino said that spending his day with the Stanley Cup and sharing it with his family, friends and fans was a close second.He wanted to bring it here and he wanted as many people as possible to see the Cup, Gardner said.Once again, Bonino was successful.And he had the Stanley Cup until midnight before it was tucked away for the night. ' ' '